Tag: emotional health

Time Stops for No One

I am often amazed by how much life changes; particularly, how time keeps going regardless of what is happening in each of our respective lives.

Think about it. At this moment someone is experiencing a family and/or personal crisis; yet, I am constructing a post about how time stops for no one. Furthermore, I could be experiencing a crisis at the moment and you would not know.

In the United States, the only country I have personal experience with, we are in many ways encouraged to put ourselves first. There is absolutely nothing wrong with this (said the person who only has experience with the United States as a country); however, when we are in crisis mode many of us long for a sense of community.

Or at the very least, we wish that people would realize just how crazy our lives are at the moment. In my experience, it is true that we often have individuals who acknowledge our crisis at least once, however, only those experiencing that crisis with us continue to be “in it” with us or empathize with us.

As I write I can think of a multitude of crises that my loved ones (friends and family) are currently in and if I expand my thoughts to individuals I know or associate with in some form, the multitude of crises increases —- but I cannot say that my personal daily life is directly impacted by these individuals’ crises. Honestly, it would be false for me to suggest that I even think of the various crises that individuals are facing as I go about my daily life.

However, when I am the one experiencing a crisis I wonder why people are not “with me” in my crisis or why it seems that no one realizes I am in the midst of a crisis…then I remember that my crises impact the lives of individuals as much as their crises impact my life…very little, if at all. Therefore, although the crises may be all consuming in my life, it may barely reach another person’s radar.

Time keeps going and life continues to go forward even in the midst of our crises. I definitely needed someone to tell me that during my adolescent years!

Breaking Point

If they paid any attention they would recognize that something was amiss.

If they listened they would hear that something was amiss.

If the knew her they would know that something was amiss.

She is slowly crumbling, albeit internally.

She appears put together externally.

She knows that she is at her breaking point; but those who say they love her and that they care are clueless to this very fact.

At this point she refuses to try and hold on.

She gave up many moons ago.

The only fight she has left is pure instinct. She only reacts now with a faint attempt to survive.

They don’t realize she is crumbling.

They fail to notice that anything is wrong.

If she ultimately breaks, in the aftermath they will suddenly recognize that she had been at a breaking point for quite some time.

They will compare notes to see whether the things become clues to her crumbling are really clues are just quirks.

Oh she is full of quirks and hard to get to know, so they disagree on what clues she displayed – this debate takes place in the aftermath of her finally breaking – and what was just her quirks.

They should see that she is crumbling, prior to her breaking…but they don’t know her well enough to truly recognize the clues.

She is slowly crumbling and losing her ability to fight it.

Unfortunately they won’t realize anything is wrong with her until the aftermath of her breaking completely.

Do better, be better, pay attention, get to know one another…don’t wait until the aftermath to realize what’s been there all along.